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April 15, 2005

Asexuality is the new bisexuality ()

by fluffy at 9:52 AM
I had a pretty long and complex dream last night.

At the beginning, I was the main character from Invisible Monsters, whose lower jaw had been shot off. I figured out that by using my hand as my lower lips I could actually have intelligible conversations with people, so I got in touch with my parents, who were upset at me for not getting in touch earlier. (In the book, the main character tried, but every time she did her parents were excited about finally becoming the victims of hate-crime phone calls.)

So anyway, while talking to her, somewhere along the line it segued to a conversation real-me could have been having with my real mom. There was some sort of health newspaper and their focus was on asexuality, about how there was such a huge recent surge in the self-identified A population and so on, and there were a couple of articles specifically about real-me (some of them written by my mom). We were talking about that, and I wondered if maybe asexuality was the new bisexuality — a status which kids were taking on as something trendy even if it wasn't something they actually felt. Back in the 90s, a lot of kids were claiming to be bisexual, for one of three reasons:

  • They were straight but wanted to appear open-minded
  • They were straight but wanted to squick out homophobes
  • They were gay but wanted to appear more socially-acceptable
and I wonder if maybe a lot of "asexual" kids (the ones who go to asexuality.org and talk about how they have sex BUT THEY DIDN'T LIKE IT, or how it's so unfair that society forces everyone to have sex etc.) are claiming to be asexual for similar reasons (appearing to be "above" the need for sex, or wanting to squick out people who are like "How could you live without sex?!" or whatever).

Anyway, then I found myself locked in an atrium, and I just knew I was in the latest Castlevania game. The first puzzle was really hard:

After narrowly escaping from a similar fate to whoever had previously tried and failed that puzzle of mind-blowing proportions, I found myself back at home, cleaning the waste vein out of shrimp. I came across one shrimp which still had all of its organs intact — its brain, liver, kidneys, and heart. (They looked just like really tiny versions of human organs.) This seriously grossed me out so I needed to feed this shrimp to a cat instead of clean it myself, even though Emeril had always been saying how good the various organs of shrimp were, especially when spread on a cracker ("but you could put this on the bumper of a car and it would still taste good").

So I carried this shrimp around outside, trying to find Toby. Toby had run off into Delphine's construction project next door, where she was installing a very large and elaborate concrete walkway/fountain/world-domination complex. Sitting right in the middle was Toby, waiting for me. I gave him the shrimp, and he was happy.

Comments

#5261 Obsidious 04/15/2005 05:42 pm
Last night, I had a dream that I got to jam with 90s rock sensation Skid Row. I don't want to sleep ever again. Sad
#5262 FlightTest 04/15/2005 06:35 pm Wait ..... Does not compute
By kids I have to assume you mean teens to early 20's, at the most. These kids are complaining that society forces them to have sex? I've never been to asexuality.org, so forgive me if I've misunderstood.

I call bullshit.

I distinctly remember my teens and early 20's. I desperately wanted to experiance sex. I failed it. I was 23 the first time I did it. I completely fail to see how someone can be "forced by society" to have sex. Coereced by a boy/girlfriend, sure, but "forced by society". Geh. Sure wish "society" had been more forceful with me.
#5263 fluffy 04/15/2005 06:47 pm
Well, by 'forced by society' they typically mean, like, 'society puts such an expectation on everyone to have sex that we're not allowed to just opt out of the whole mating process.' Which is total bullshit, yeah, and that was my entire point (even if it was a point I came up with in a dream).

Personally I've never been interested in sex, and I continue to not be interested in sex.
#5266 Avalon 04/16/2005 04:17 am
There was an article about asexuality (in humans) in New Scientist about a year ago.
#5267 fluffy 04/16/2005 08:06 am
Okay. Where?
#5268 Avalon 04/16/2005 02:58 pm
If you're genuinely interested I can dig through my back issues tomorrow.
#5270 fluffy 04/17/2005 01:03 am
Okay.
#16997 Anonymous 05/25/2015 03:50 pm
fluffy:
Well, by 'forced by society' they typically mean, like, 'society puts such an expectation on everyone to have sex that we're not allowed to just opt out of the whole mating process.' Which is total bullshit, yeah, and that was my entire point (even if it was a point I came up with in a dream).

Personally I've never been interested in sex, and I continue to not be interested in sex.


But society doesn't force these emos to have sex. People don't chain them and rape them. People don't care if people are having sex or not. A lot of these retards just want attention, because they feel insecure about themselves. It's so much easier giving yourself a label then dealing with your insecuries.
#16998 fluffy 05/25/2015 03:51 pm
What a useful necropost on a 10-year-old blog entry.